I think I'm probably in a similar place to you. I've socially drunk my way around the world for 50-odd years, never really caring too much about the damage I
Similar but different. You've socially drunk you way round the world for 50-odd years, and I've just drunk for 50 odd years
My relevant story, I guess, is that my mother was an alcoholic, and quite destructive when she was in full flow. She died over 20 years ago now, and alcohol was definitely part of the cause (there were a few others, which would have been exacerbated by her drinking). Thing is, most of the family didn't know - or didn't connect the dots.
Well, there you go. An experience close to home.
Did a job last year for a mate of mine whose mother had moved down to Lymington to begin a new life after her marriage had broken up.
To cut a long story short: marriage breakup, always had an issue with alcohol, was able to financially to start a new life for herself in Lymington after the separation, did ok for 5-6 yrs, got in with a bad crowd [not that bad, just a bit boozey], started drinking again and ultimately ended up being sectioned, and is now in a care home. Same age as me, 61!! The mental and physical decline with that kind of self-abuse is literally very sobering to see. It was shocking to see. I spent last year down there sorting the house out. Dear god, what a mess, what a state to get into.
And the thing I always come back to about something like that is: where does self-awarenss seek to be any help whatsoever to a person, and a kind of helpless mental illness take over? Is it just the luck of the genetic draw or what? Some are able to save themselves and others just seem so hell-bent on a kind of self-destructive continuum, that to return from such a state would seem to be somewhat slim, and those around them feel so powerless to help. I remember my friend phoning me one day when I was down there working on the house, just so exasperated and her saying, "she just so fucking relentless with it all, it's just so fucking draining, I can't take this much longer". So was so, so down with it all.
Something that is also very common with heavy drinking is a decline in maintaining a decent standard of nutritional intake. It's another nail. Shot by both sides, so to speak.
Anyway, on a lighter note, leaving that aside.......time to wish people on here the best and may the winds of self-help and recovery propel you far into 2021!