heat sink compound is (IIRC) often made using silicone oil as a base. Having put this onto the parts, you will basically never, ever, get them properly clean again, if they are rough and/or porous. Not clean enough to make a really good adhesive bond, anyway. It is arguably one of the worst possible things you could have done if you ever wanted to repair it properly at a later date.
My suggestion is that you either
a) take the parts to a carbon repairer (this is the sort of repair they do all the time) or
b) degrease the parts as well as you can (eg using acetone) and then roughen the surfaces (by taking off the top surface using ~200grit paper, changing it for fresh stuff several times, so that you get rid of the contamination and don't just spread it around. An alternative is that you very lightly grit-blast the surfaces that you intend to bond. It is a very good idea to do this anyway with the metal plate.
Without knowing more about the exact frame design one cannot be sure, but it is often possible to secure such plates by drilling and tapping, so that some small csk screws hold the plate in place even if the glue is a bit iffy.
cheers