..... and kept reading how the XT wasn't the XT of yore. Deore is now where XT was, and XT , with its alloy axle, is somewhere else.....
The Deore LX is basically where the XT models (with steel axles) were; the next step down the ladder is Deore, which is plenty good enough for most purposes but IIRC the seals are not quite as good. In road width (130mm OLN) hubs Tiagra are similar too.
SFG = Semi Fluid Grease, eg NLGI #00 (cf most greases which are NLGI #2 thickness). Want to know what NLGI #00 is like? .... think of something with similar viscosity to tomato ketchup, that is very runny whilst in motion, but when left standing will, after a few minutes, not run away under its own weight so easily. Inside a hub, this keeps everything (including the seal lips) wetted nicely with lubricant, yet doesn't simply leak out of the hubs whilst they are standing.
If you don't like hub maintenance, I'd suggest that you grit your teeth and service shimano hubs as suggested when the wheels are new (it is much easier and more pleasant at this time BTW!). This ensures that you will be doing much
less maintenance in the future; typically all that is required is to occasionally back out the LH cone, and add a little more SFG into both sides of the hub. A good time to do this is when the freewheel action starts to become clearly audible when riding.
If adjusted correctly (with a little free play that just disappears as the QR is tightened) and well lubricated, the wear rate of the bearings is essentially zero; in practice shimano cones only wear if the preload is too high (no free play when the QR is not tight? -your bearings are set with too much preload, guaranteed) or water enters the hub. The #1 cause of the seals failing and letting water enter the hub is insufficient grease that is too thick, and is too easily corrupted by road salt to reliably keep the seal lips wetted, i.e. as the hubs leave the factory.
If you wish to confirm that the hub adjustment is definitely
incorrect when there is no free play, take a used hub adjusted thusly (without the QR springs fitted), put a couple of M10 washers in place of each dropout before snugging the QR down with normal pressure. It is quite usual to feel the bearings start to bind noticeably when the QR pressure is on. If you back the adjustment out so that there is a little free play (that just disappears when the QR is tightened) and repeat the experiment, you can achieve a result whereby the hub bearings are smooth as butter when the QR is fully tight.
The QR applies a load of several hundred kg to the hub and (if there is no free play before you start) a good portion of this is borne by the bearings, if the axle is comparably stiff vs the hubshell. In this event the preload can easily be way in excess of the service load..
BTW even budget off-brand hubs will give vastly improved service if they are similarly treated, too.
cheers