A friend I've known since the first day of grammar school in 1972 and I are drifting apart. I'm not sure how I feel about that, as we have become quite different people over the last ten years or so. He's kind, warm-hearted and generous - so far so good, but he is becoimg very reactionary in his mindset, and I can't help but find that disturbing. Last week, on a trip away, he commented that he would find Black History Month very patronising if he were black. I pointed out that he is a privileged, middle-class, white male who couldn't really see things from a black perspective. I too am the same, but at least I recognise that BHM is a good thing to show up the lack of recognition given to black people of significance. He also objects strongly to the introductions given to 80s films regarding the use of language that would today be seen as inappropriate. I find those introductions totally inoffensive and necessary for people like my daughter. She's just watched a chunk of In the Heat of the Night and was astounded that the word 'negro' was used casually throughout.
I was best man at his wedding and was somewhat surprised to hear that If by Kipling was his favourite poem and was read out in full. I really don't like the sentiments that poem gives out.
Anyway, instead of ignoring his comments, I'm starting to respond with my thoughts. He can either take that as my disagreement with his views, or see me as an ageing, lefty hippy. I'm starting to not care what he thinks.