It's a Chris King Devolution headset in a Principia frame which has a 1 1/4" head tube, I was quite careful to order from the US a base plate (CK term for crown race) that is specific for this design, being 1 1/4" with internal diameter for 1 /18" steerer. The bearings are not worn. The fork is a Columbus Tusk Air Chrono with alu steerer. The stem is a Thomson Elite X2. Quite simply, the stem alone was not sufficient to hold the arrangement tight and free of play - compression from the top cap was also required.
I completely accept that a stem should hold a front end together 100% - I've even seen people riding A-head setups with no top cap installed. In this instance, the bung I used was just about OK for a while, but needed regular adjustment, if I had installed the star nut at the beginning these adjustments would not have been necessary.
I will be disassembling the bike soon, and hope to have a full carbon frame and fork for next year, which will be bungtastic! For my new winter bike that I'm about to build, the star nut will be going into the steerer tube post haste...
Thanks, everyone, for your input.