Oh yeah, it does upset me, but my point was it obviously doesn't upset me enough, otherwise I'd do something about it.
I think the main problem is that all the easy obvious things that you can cut down on or remove from your diet, I already don't eat. Don't eat cakes, chocolate, biscuits, crisps, chips, beer, fried food, takeaways etc etc...
I just like really good, proper, freshly prepared food and lots of it. Love lots of bread, pasta, rice, legumes etc which are all bad. I've tried eating smaller portions but more often to speed my metabolism up as I generally only eat one decent meal a day, but I couldn't hack it.
Basically, I can't be arsed.
You sound like me. You say you obviously aren't upset enough, but weight-loss isn't as clear cut as that. Many people get so upset about over-eating that they over-eat, it's clearly quite complex (skinny folk don't understand, we should "pull ourselves together").
I enjoy eating and I know I eat too much but I actually enjoy being slim more than I enjoy eating too much food.
The problem is that feeling good about being slim is a conscious, higher-brain function, whilst enjoying food is an unconcious activity, you're fighting all manner of natural "highs" you get from eating. Food is pretty addictive stuff, try going without.
Right now I'm in weight-loss mode. I have PBP as a focus and I'm going to get from around 15 stone to under 13 stone by August (12-7 is my target but maybe that's too much, we'll see), my conscious brain is winning right now but my unconcious brain is waiting for me to finish PBP and spend the next 30 years rewarding me for my valiant effort. I could go from 12st7 to 15st from August to Jan 1st, no problem whatsoever.
What I really want to do is stay <13st after PBP. I want to make this a "for life" thing, make it a natural way of eating rather than a challenging diet for big Audax rides followed by months of "reward".
Being slim is just better.
I'm just targetting 1 pound per week with a 4 pounds per calendar month backup policy (just so I don't get disheartened when I inevitably plateau for a week or two). Once I start the 300/400/600km rides it will be no problem.
Even 0.5 pounds a week is 2 stone a year and all I need to get a perfect BMI. 0.5 pounds a week is 1750Kcals a week defecit, or 250Kcals a day. That's just 2 slices of buttered bread a day to sacrifice or about 30 minutes cycling. It's easy but it all depends how much you want it.
You say you aren't upset enough. what would you prefer, (a) a nice big meal every day or (b) being slim and a nice big meal at the weekend? I'm opting for (b) right now, whereas usually it's (a) several times a day.