Author Topic: What would you tell your 18 year old self..... (Read 4717 times)

CrinklyLion · « **Reply #25 on:** 28 April, 2012, 10:04:56 pm »

Quote from: John Henry on 28 April, 2012, 07:18:22 pm

Quote from: barakta on 28 April, 2012, 06:45:49 pm

I am the person I am because of my mistakes and wrong turnings.

Yeah, this.

And tbh the 38 year old me could probably learn a bit from the 18 year old me. Getting older doesn't always mean getting better and wiser!

Indeed - that, and this too.

jogler · « **Reply #26 on:** 28 April, 2012, 10:07:26 pm »

Don't neglect your bike now that you have a car

why1040 · « **Reply #27 on:** 28 April, 2012, 11:32:39 pm »

You will, eventually, figure it all out, stop hating yourself and actually learn to socialise. You'll even learn to use all that crap to help others.

Don't drink Diamond White, it makes you even more suicidal. If you must drink, lock away your tablets first.
It's possible not to give in to the SI urges.
It's okay to feel not okay.
It's completely okay to be angry at them.
It wasn't your fault.

Yes, she's cute, she's gay and you fancy her rotten. Unfortunately she's also a cockwomble, but you do learn something from that

Wowbagger · « **Reply #28 on:** 28 April, 2012, 11:48:17 pm »

"Don't be so open and trusting" which is probably exactly the opposite of good advice.

I think I've suffered as a result of trusting people too much, but on the other hand I now know some really lovely people simply because I've a fairly trusting nature - and they are the ones who are worth knowing.

Steph · « **Reply #29 on:** 29 April, 2012, 02:57:46 am »

Do it now. Talk to your parents, your doctor. Don't wait until you are 52 and your body is terminally poisoned. You are NOT a pervert, nor a freak.

Do it while you still have hair....

tiermat · « **Reply #30 on:** 29 April, 2012, 08:19:55 am »

1) Don't marry her
2) Listen to that Beautiful South song "Don't Marry Her..."
3) You have a low opinion of how you look, but the girls don't. Believe them, not yourself.
4) repeat 1)
5) repeat 2)
6) In the future, no matter how bad things seem they do get better.
7) Don't trust everyone, some people are just out to get what they can, not everyone is really your friend.
8&9) Don't drink so much and DO NOT start smoking
10) Get that stomach pain checked out, don't let the doctors fob you off, it's serious.

rogerzilla · « **Reply #31 on:** 29 April, 2012, 08:31:30 am »

Don't take advice from your parents unless you are very much like them in personality. If you're different from them, their advice will be wrong for you.

You never actually work for anyone but yourself. Employers are not all that interested in you as a person, only whether you can add value for them.

You know that story about Marc Almond? It's not true. Where would he get four pints?

FatBloke · « **Reply #32 on:** 29 April, 2012, 11:03:09 am »

Start cycling! Don't leave it until you're over 30!

And study! Study hard!!

Don't be so idle!!

Don't procrastinate!!

Julian · « **Reply #33 on:** 29 April, 2012, 01:31:57 pm »

This:

Quote from: Lindagordinho on 28 April, 2012, 01:34:33 pm

re: being 'abnormal'. This is a really great thing to be. Revel in it, don't fight against it.

Kim · « **Reply #34 on:** 29 April, 2012, 03:31:24 pm »

"They fuck you up your mum and dad. Don't waste your emotional energy on them. You don't actually owe them anything."

"Your brain will never work properly again. Stop flogging that dead horse and get over it."

And of course:

"Learn to love your geeky nature."

All the other mistakes I think I needed to make.

Jacomus · « **Reply #35 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:00:14 pm »

1) It is ok to not feel ok

2) Your gut is virtually always right. Act on it.

3) In a year's time, you are going to make a life changing fuck up. See Number 2)

PaulF · « **Reply #36 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:06:43 pm »

1. Ask her out

2. Study what interests you not what the school tells you will be a good idea

3. Flaming tequila will never end well

tiermat · « **Reply #37 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:08:46 pm »

Quote from: Kim on 29 April, 2012, 03:31:24 pm

"They fuck you up your mum and dad. Don't waste your emotional energy on them. You don't actually owe them anything."

Thinking of this, by any chance?

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/178055

lou boutin · « **Reply #38 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:20:45 pm »

Quote from: Steph on 29 April, 2012, 02:57:46 am

Do it now. Talk to your parents, your doctor. Don't wait until you are 52 and your body is terminally poisoned. You are NOT a pervert, nor a freak.

Do it while you still have hair....

+

nicknack · « **Reply #39 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:24:24 pm »

Don't listen to me.

geraldc · « **Reply #40 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:27:58 pm »

No one thinks any worse of someone who tries but fails (with the exception of various crimes)

lou boutin · « **Reply #41 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:42:30 pm »

I don't think I would change my mistakes as they have served me well. I think I would give myself about how to look after myself better. Such as:

1) Don't put as much trust as you do into 'that' part of the family, in the future they will do things to betray the trust you have in them, even though you have helped them in practical, emotional and financial ways. Protect yourself from the hurt.

2) Don't feel guilty about everything you do. You'll never intentionally hurt anyone and you have the right to make decisions and do things in life without feeling that you don't have the right.

3) Kids and teenagers are cruel, don't listen to them, be yourself and you will be fine. In years to come you will find they are still the same, petty small minded people, but you have achieved your dreams.

4) Be happy, whatever difficulties and negativity comes your way you will get over and 'this too will pass' and 'what doesn't kill me will make me stronger' will become your mantras.

5) Take better care of yourself. You matter too and if you don't look after yourself, you will not be strong enough to look after those who are deserving of your care.

6) One day your prince WILL come.

clarion · « **Reply #42 on:** 30 April, 2012, 12:44:33 pm »

You're OK. You'll be making some mistakes in the next few years. Try to stay on course. Nowt I can say to help you with that, and you're bound to go wrong sometimes. Try to put things right where you can, and learn from your mistakes. Do what you can to do the things you know are positive and helpful to you and others. It'll all be OK eventually.

Um...that's also, coincidentally (or not), the advice I have given my lads.

Kim · « **Reply #43 on:** 30 April, 2012, 01:12:34 pm »

Quote from: tiermat on 30 April, 2012, 12:08:46 pm

Quote from: Kim on 29 April, 2012, 03:31:24 pm
"They fuck you up your mum and dad. Don't waste your emotional energy on them. You don't actually owe them anything."

Thinking of this, by any chance?

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/178055

Partially, but I was mostly thinking about my parents.

Butterfly · « **Reply #44 on:** 30 April, 2012, 01:34:09 pm »

Quote from: Lindagordinho on 28 April, 2012, 01:34:33 pm

re: being 'abnormal'. This is a really great thing to be. Revel in it, don't fight against it.

This.

Also:

Don't give up cycling.
Don't waste time being bored in night clubs (see 'being abnormal')
If you want something, put your foot down and argue to get it, otherwise people don't think you are interested.
Don't waste time in church - find a cycling club instead, you're always going to be a sinner so you might as well do something you enjoy instead of sitting in church being made to feel guilty.
Don't feel guilty, they are wrong and you know they are wrong.
If you want to sit in a meeting, find the Quakers. They are much more your thing.
Being happy is better than being paid well.
Don't go to uni, but DO get your NNEB, whatever it takes. Maybe go to uni later.

FatBloke · « **Reply #45 on:** 30 April, 2012, 01:47:33 pm »

Quote from: PaulF on 30 April, 2012, 12:06:43 pm

2. Study what interests you not what the school tells you will be a good idea

+1

FatBloke · « **Reply #46 on:** 30 April, 2012, 01:48:51 pm »

If careers advisers were any good at their job, they probably wouldn't be careers advisers!!

Lady Cavendish · « **Reply #47 on:** 30 April, 2012, 01:55:18 pm »

*Don't do music at uni, it's not going to get you anywhere, its impossible to be a professional musician
*Working in the West End really wont be everything you think it will, don't waste endless emotional energy on it
*It is possible to move on from your first love. Eventually.
*Drunk and drugs won't solve all your problems. Nor will starving yourself to near death, and you'll only get locked away until you learn to eat. 'Normal' life is actually better.
*Do some exercise, running is actually fun and will bring you loads of happiness and new friends, and you could be better at it than you realise.
*When you lose your hair through chemo, the world *really* won't end
*You do have a soulmate, it will just take a bit of heartache to finally get there

lou boutin · « **Reply #48 on:** 30 April, 2012, 02:03:30 pm »

Quote from: Lady Cavendish on 30 April, 2012, 01:55:18 pm

*When you lose your hair through chemo, the world *really* won't end

I thought that was the worst part of the disease, I handled everything else much better than that - although I had lots of fun with hats and wigs and still do.

Lady Cavendish · « **Reply #49 on:** 30 April, 2012, 02:06:23 pm »

Oh me too, totally fell apart- they could remove organs left right and centre, but not my hair!!! Vanity eh?! The world totally did not end, and I also still have some wigs

I now have quite long hair that has just grown back though that's all mine