I used the flyby feature to find other people who rode the same audax event and give them kudos. Occasionally using it to find someone I rode with for a while and, after looking at their other rides, maybe adding them to my following list.
Yeah, I used to use it to see how slow I was on an Audax relative to others.
In general I'm quite "privacy first", but in this case I feel Strava over-reacted; as long as the flyby doesn't show rides marked private or followers-only, opt-out would be better than the opt-in that it is now IMO.
A while back I was out for a lovely ride up the cost north towards Den Helder. As I was riding along I ended up riding with a young woman on a nice road bike. We exchanged pleasantries, then there was a bit where our routes diverged, and she went off. Turns out we just had different approaches to the small town, and on the other side we met up again. "We have to stop meeting like this, I joked". We rode the remaining 40km or so together. It was lovely, she was a really interesting person.
Through strava flybys I was able to find out who she was (we never got as far as introducing ourselves to each other)... with a name I was then able to find out her job... and then on looking at her activity history, also her home to within 3-4 houses, cos she doesn't have a privacy zone setup properly.
It's kinda scary how much you can do with something as little as riding next to someone. I've done nothing with the above information, other than scare myself at how easy it is to find it all. But it's very easy to stalk someone this way.
I have my Wahoo auto upload to strava, but I have each activity set to private by default. I then change the setting on a per ride basis as and when I want to. This also stops people getting flooded with my trips to the shops... etc... I also make extensive use of privacy zones, with multiple overlapping ones over home and places of employment. As well as over the houses of close friends.
When I'm doing a long tour or a race, I upload at the end of every day, but I wait until my first stop on the next day to set the activity as public. So friends can see where I've been, but more importantly, who ever's stalking me can't work out under which tree I slept... or in which hotel.
I think when you create an account with Strava, the first thing it should do is instruct you to create a privacy zone over your home. Esp with the strava derived thefts happening...
J