For the rest of this post as a straight, white (relatively) able-bodied man (for which I have my parents to thank, not even my choice) and a father (of girls) so at the top of the sexist familial hierarchy I am left wondering what I am meant to do. Do I give up riding with women as "compagnons of fortune" on brevets montagnards (the men generally climb much too quick for me, most women ditto!)? Am I no longer permitted to stop and offer assistance to a cyclist if it's the wrong sex? Am I even banned from going into a cycle shop with one of my daughters in case she asks me for advice (or just an opinion)? Where does it all stop? I can't even ask my wife for advice, she thinks that the sofa and the internal combustion engine are God's gifts and the bicycle is the work of Stan and I know where to put it! Only thing left to do - go for a ride, alone!
To be blunt, it's not about you. None of this is about you. I know it's hard -- and you are by no means alone in thinking this is, indeed, about you -- but it's not. There is no need to be dramatic.
This is not women saying they don't want to ride with any men, nor about women wanting to take over AUK and kick out all the men. This thread, believe it or not, is not anti-men. It is pro-women, but this is not a zero sum game. We're not trying to take anything away from any of you.
Ride with women, just don't say something to them you wouldn't say to a man. Treat them as people, not exotic creatures whose main attributes are what is contained within their shorts.
Offer assistance to any cyclist. If she's a woman, and she says she's fine, believe her. Don't try to tell her she's doing it wrong, or grab the wheel off her because her delicate wee thumbs can't possibly put that tyre back on. If she accepts help, do as she asks, not what you think she needs.
Go into a cycle shop with your daughter. If the assistant addresses you, explain clearly that he should be talking to your daughter. If he fails to do so, take your daughter to another bike shop where they will treat her like the human being with agency she is.
It's not rocket science.
Sam