My scout troop has some Vaude Campo 3 tents. These are Fairly Good Quality 2/3 person hike tents. Pitch inner first, attach it to the two aluminium arch poles, throw flysheet over. Here's the tricky bit. Push the "ridge" pole into a sleeve on the fly, locate the far end in a metal reinforced eyelet. Push pole, pull fly sheet towards you, curse
sotto voce and finally get the other end in its reinforced eyelet. There's a handy thumb loop to assist with the pulling.
About 50s in this video
https://youtu.be/Y4eBLeMGlFsStriking the tent is the reverse of this process.
Some of the tents are harder to pitch than others, due possibly to clash of tolerances - longer pole meets smaller flysheet. Would it be a Stupid Thing to cut say 5mm off a section of pole (clever use of a pipe cutter means the ends will be undisturbed) to make the whole process a smidgeon easier. Some of the (aluminium) poles have been permanently bent due to people struggling to put them up.
(Supplementary question: how hard is it to straighten or at least slightly unbend an aluminium tent pole without it creasing or otherwise breaking?)