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Stag hen nights
« on: January 25, 2020, 06:14:12 pm »
I'm getting married later in the year, and been chatting with my financee and we are not sure whether to have separate hen/stag nights or joint one.
What is everyone's thoughts?

ElyDave

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2020, 06:19:28 pm »
Why not do both?

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #2 on: January 25, 2020, 06:27:27 pm »
Why not do both?

Then they'd be Hag Nights.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #3 on: January 25, 2020, 06:47:06 pm »
Can't make a simple decision between you both before the wedding ceremony?
Hope this isn't going to persist throughout the marriage.

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #4 on: January 25, 2020, 06:47:24 pm »
My son and DiL had a joint weekend of adventure samplers. Canoeing and stuff.  They were very pleased with it.  No drinking in strange towns.  Bar b Q and heavy drinking at a rented location.

Mind you, his stags and her hens were 90% from the same circle of chums,which probably made it easier.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #5 on: January 25, 2020, 06:51:27 pm »
Can't make a simple decision between you both before the wedding ceremony?
Hope this isn't going to persist throughout the marriage.

I wouldn't worry about that.  Mrs B and I famously had an argument in the taxi on the way to the registry office.   That was in 1982, so we haven't done too badly.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #6 on: January 25, 2020, 06:55:20 pm »
Can't make a simple decision between you both before the wedding ceremony?
Hope this isn't going to persist throughout the marriage.
I was looking for opinions is that so bad?

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #7 on: January 25, 2020, 06:59:28 pm »
Yeah, someone is having a bad day.

I don't think we bothered with either, didn't really see the point. We are, of course, defined by unconvention. If we want to do something, we do it. Other than the satanic sex orgies, marriage hasn't really changed that.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #8 on: January 25, 2020, 07:00:48 pm »
Tongue-in-cheek comment. It's an internet forum y'know.

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #9 on: January 25, 2020, 07:10:43 pm »
I'm getting married later in the year, and been chatting with my financee and we are not sure whether to have separate hen/stag nights or joint one.
What is everyone's thoughts?

Seems weird to have separate ones.  YMMV.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #10 on: January 25, 2020, 07:18:32 pm »
I'm getting married later in the year, and been chatting with my financee and we are not sure whether to have separate hen/stag nights or joint one.
What is everyone's thoughts?

Seems weird to have separate ones.  YMMV.

Why?  😊. Generational difference I guess. “In my day...” we’d never have thought of a joint do. 
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #11 on: January 25, 2020, 07:21:14 pm »
If you and your fiancee want to have a pre-wedding party together, where you invite your mates and she invites hers, why not do just that?

Kim

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #12 on: January 25, 2020, 07:25:54 pm »
I'm getting married later in the year, and been chatting with my financee and we are not sure whether to have separate hen/stag nights or joint one.
What is everyone's thoughts?

Seems weird to have separate ones.  YMMV.

Why?  😊. Generational difference I guess. “In my day...” we’d never have thought of a joint do.

Because it's going to be the same friendship group, mostly, and dividing them up by gender (if that's even applicable) seems weird.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #13 on: January 25, 2020, 07:29:57 pm »
I've never been to a stag night. Nor a hen night.
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Kim

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #14 on: January 25, 2020, 07:32:01 pm »
I've never been to a stag night. Nor a hen night.

Me neither.  Well, not deliberately.  I've been on the Saturday morning train to York a few times, which is a kind of rolling hen night by default.
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ian

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #15 on: January 25, 2020, 07:36:36 pm »
My wife used to go quite a few hen-does when her friends were getting married (now we're in the era of the divorced) but they were mostly civilised things. I think she once got stuck in the tethered hot-air balloon that used to float over Vauxhall. I mostly never bothered because I'm a grumpy sociopath.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #16 on: January 25, 2020, 07:41:19 pm »
I'm getting married later in the year, and been chatting with my financee and we are not sure whether to have separate hen/stag nights or joint one.
What is everyone's thoughts?

Seems weird to have separate ones.  YMMV.

Why?  😊. Generational difference I guess. “In my day...” we’d never have thought of a joint do.

Because it's going to be the same friendship group, mostly, and dividing them up by gender (if that's even applicable) seems weird.

Hmm, why assume the bride-to-be’s friends are also the groom-to-be’s?  It wasn’t the case with either of my wives.  ;D
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #17 on: January 25, 2020, 08:01:56 pm »
Thank you for the replies lady's and gents,

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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #18 on: January 25, 2020, 08:05:16 pm »
Congrats, btw
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #19 on: January 26, 2020, 10:01:49 am »
Why not do both?

Then they'd be Hag Nights.

Burns suppers were last night.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #20 on: January 26, 2020, 10:35:49 am »
Most women don't see the attraction in a whole-of-London pub crawl.  They prefer spa days and such shit  ;D
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #21 on: January 26, 2020, 10:37:20 am »
Most women don't see the attraction in a whole-of-London pub crawl.  They prefer spa days and such shit  ;D

Jesus. Rose Street was enough for me.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #22 on: January 26, 2020, 11:07:04 am »
Most women don't see the attraction in a whole-of-London pub crawl. 

I encountered a hen party last night in the West End that definitely had no interest in spa days. I don't know which one of them was the bride - possibly the one who was virtually naked with a plastic tiara on her head - but I felt a tinge of pity for any man having to spend the rest of his life with any of them.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #23 on: January 26, 2020, 11:43:29 am »
My wife did a lot of spa days being that kind of refined lady. And the hot-air balloon thing before it floated off. Despite putting 'lost wife' posters on all the nearby lamposts, that was the last time I saw her. I even offered a reward. Anyway.

OK, I can maybe see the activity ones, but the getting stupidly drunk, not so. I passed one the other week, where the groom-to-be was just wearing a nappy and I'm pretty sure he might have used it. Yesterday, a hen-do that would have sent Genghis Khan diving into a ditch and playing dead till they'd gone. I was quite impressed that someone so obvious drunk could still walk in heels that high, but in retrospect, I think she was only upright because someone had tied a significant number of helium balloons to her.
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Re: Stag hen nights
« Reply #24 on: January 26, 2020, 11:55:31 am »
Just do what you both actually want to do and will enjoy, and dont give a moment's consideration to traditions or what other people tell you that you should do.

That applies to your wedding too.