What Tom has is the experienceof the very public antipathy expressed after he released Glad To Be Gay, which is more overtly gay than 2-4-6-8 Motorway. It became an anthem of resistance and resilience to a generation of gay people after the demise of the GLF and before Queer Politics, while also being the tool of the taunters.
But, uniquely, he was very publicly rejected by large sections of the gay community when he revealed he was living with a woman. He'd never covered up his bisexuality, but somehow it was 'OK' so long as he was with men. The treatment of his 'betrayal' divided gay opinion, and was a (small) factor in the creation of a new Queer Politics.
For all that, he is a modest man, and his enthusiasm for new musical talent is infectious.