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Putting a pet to sleep
« on: November 23, 2013, 05:52:15 pm »
We have a 16 year old cat. He is the best cat of all cats.

He has been ill for a while, has a tumour in his belly, been on medication to keep fluid out his belly and stop him having fits for maybe 18 months at a guess.

Last week his breathing was really not right, vet said it would be a legitimate time to end things but we could try an injection and upping his fluid tablets. He is eating a bit again but wobbles rather than walks, he's all over the place, belly looks quite swollen, still looks like he is struggling to breathe a bit and isn't really doing much.

How do you know it's definitely time? I think it's time but its so hard to know for sure. My eldest daughter is totally distraught at the idea (we have all discussed Monday)

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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2013, 06:08:26 pm »
Horrible situation.

I think we just knew with Sir Scoville.

There was just a point where we could see he was suffering. He had been to the emergency vets the night before, and we knew he wouldn't get better. We woke up, took one look at him and simultaneously said he needed to go to the vets.

I know that is no help at all - "we just knew". But that was how it is.

When their quality of life isn't high and has little chance of improving, then sadly, it is the right time.

Horrible.

I hope you can all look after each other and come to the same decision.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #2 on: November 23, 2013, 06:20:15 pm »
It is when it is right for him, rather than you. Easier to say than do, but we've been guilty of delaying the journey to the vets a bit too long.

The other thing is that pets deteriorate far quicker than we do - a day can make a big difference.

Best wishes, it is such a sad thing to have to do, but ultimately right for him.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2013, 06:26:38 pm »
I feel for your and your family and as marcusjb said a horrible situation to be in, all the best to you all.

Now this is truly honest and please do not take any offence. I have had to put three of my dogs down for various reasons, so I have be come somewhat harden.

If the vet things there is nothing to do to better your cats life, I think it is time to put him to sleep. Is it really worth it having him and you suffer any longer. It is better to remember you cat in better days than remember him while he was suffering/sick.

Big hugs and remember the good days.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #4 on: November 23, 2013, 06:37:55 pm »
He doesn't seem in pain but he isn't purring any more and I just don't think he is all that comfortable. I don't think he will improve either, so I think we will take him Monday.

The should we/shouldn't we isn't great for the kids either, eldest (14) is hysterical at times, younger is dealing with it better, although I think my fiancé is actually more of a mess than them and just prolonging it won't help anyone. Harry really is the best cat in the history of cats though. There are other reasons why I think this is hitting them hard and it's just time for him to go :(

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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #5 on: November 23, 2013, 06:54:53 pm »
Cats are supposed to be very good at hiding pain too. Sorry he's so poorly :(
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #6 on: November 23, 2013, 07:58:20 pm »
Poor Harry :-[.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #7 on: November 24, 2013, 01:53:00 pm »
He doesn't seem in pain but he isn't purring any more and I just don't think he is all that comfortable. I don't think he will improve either, so I think we will take him Monday.

I think that's what I'd do too. If it gets worse you can always go sooner. If the vet doesn't think its reasonable on Monday they'll say. Its never nice and I feel for you.

Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #8 on: November 25, 2013, 11:15:43 am »
His breathing isn't any better. He is eating a bit now and moving around a little, although he tends to fall over, but mainly sleeping. But he just looks like he is gasping for breath a bit. So me and OH are going with Harry at 6pm tonight :( Kids are ready now, OH is totally not. I know how much he loves Haz, but he is totally in pieces over it.

It's the kind thing to do though.

Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #9 on: November 25, 2013, 11:23:32 am »
It is the right thing, too, much sympathy. Also remember that these sort of events can trigger all sorts of links in our minds that we don't even admit are there. I know that it was only when I lost a dog that I finally ended up grieving the loss of my mother some years before. It was a very intense time.

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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #10 on: November 25, 2013, 12:57:56 pm »
Poor chap.

Very sad.

Much sympathy to you and your clan Lady C.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #11 on: November 25, 2013, 02:45:15 pm »
Poor Harry.  I hope tonight is as unhideous as possible and that you all get space to grieve as you need and don't feel it's wrong to do so.

Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #12 on: November 25, 2013, 06:50:34 pm »
RIP Harry  :'(  :'(

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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #13 on: November 25, 2013, 06:51:21 pm »
Hugs ...
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #14 on: November 25, 2013, 06:56:06 pm »
Time is all that will separate you. Love will continue. He will be remembered. Hope the kids are okay. Thinking of you.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #15 on: November 25, 2013, 07:32:11 pm »
Best wishes, LC.

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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #16 on: November 25, 2013, 07:56:43 pm »
You did the right thing for him. Tea and hugs to you all.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #17 on: November 25, 2013, 08:03:15 pm »
It's a sad time and it hurts, but the good memories take over and remain. Take care.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #18 on: November 25, 2013, 08:08:07 pm »
Condolences to you all at this difficult time.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #19 on: November 25, 2013, 10:58:28 pm »
Having recently performed the same task on my 16-year-old cat, you have my sympathies. 
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #20 on: November 26, 2013, 12:58:03 am »
Hugs, LC. 
Sad times.
We are facing this soon ourselves.
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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #21 on: November 26, 2013, 10:48:07 am »
Ahhhh thanks.

And to anyone else who has to go through it, I can't recommend Dignity Pet Crematorium enough.... individual cremation and a nice little urn with his name on a silver plaque plus they keep a bit of his fur and do a little pawprint on a framed card. Lovely people who really make your pet feel like family :)

Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #22 on: November 26, 2013, 11:31:13 am »
Very sorry for your loss, Lady C. :'(

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Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #23 on: November 26, 2013, 01:28:39 pm »
We went through this recently with our beloved Bella, she was 16 and we had to make the extremely hard decision to have her put down. Reading through this post has me welling up a bit and I know how hard it is so my thoughts are with you.

Re: Putting a pet to sleep
« Reply #24 on: December 24, 2013, 01:16:01 pm »
As a follow up to this, the happy news is that this afternoon I am picking up my fiance's xmas present (his of course, nothing to do with me and the girls wanting one ;) )

A little 12 week old ginger Kitten. We will be welcoming George into our house today :) :) :) :)